Tuesday, October 16, 2012

Relationship Update

I've not written in quite a while, mostly because I'm so busy with work that I can't find a spare minute to check my bank balance, let along blog.  I apologize for being gone for so long.

Another reason for the break has to do with the changes I've made in my life in the past few weeks.  When I started writing here, I was writing about my dating experiences, and at first there were a lot of boys to talk about.  As the summer waned, and my time started to become more and more constricted, I realized that I don't really want to date outside my primary V anymore.  I reached a point where the amount of time I was putting in at work, and the amount of time required to maintain my relationships at home with my kids and husbands was so much that dating became too much work.

I still care for the Prime, but I have stopped seeing him.  We have talked a couple of times, awkwardly, but I have a really hard time finding what to say.  I don't like being a heartbreaker, I don't like feeling like the bad guy.  The Libertine told me that I have an adorably naive way of thinking that everything will sort itself out in the end if I just leave it alone long enough - and that's pretty true.  It took a long time and a lot of thinking for me to get to the point where I could say "I can't do this" to the Prime.

The Libertine is basically living with the Mister and I now.  He has his own bedroom, and on weekends that he has the Princess she stays here, too.  There have been bumps and bruises, and we are all learning to live together, but we are getting there.

I guess what I'm getting at is, if you're looking for poly dating advice, I may not be your best option for reading.  But if you want to see what it's like inside a stable, permanent, cohabitating V then this is going to get very interesting for you.  We are learning to function as a family unit, raising children, celebrating holidays, and going to work every day.  Doing this with three adults in the house is often much easier, but sometimes much, much harder.

What would you guys like to hear about?  What aspects of cohabitation interest you the most?


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